{"id":1951,"date":"2010-05-22T18:02:59","date_gmt":"2010-05-23T01:02:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.poorluckyme.com\/blog\/?p=1951"},"modified":"2025-05-23T17:32:44","modified_gmt":"2025-05-23T22:32:44","slug":"memorial-service","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.poorluckyme.com\/blog\/memorial-service\/","title":{"rendered":"Memorial Service"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Planning Tommy&#8217;s memorial service is overwhelming.  It feels like it&#8217;s going to be the end of everything.  Even now, when Tom Sr and I go outside I can&#8217;t believe how many people are just enjoying the sunny weather and laughing.  The activities I want to do have sufficiently freaked out everyone I&#8217;ve been honest with.  So Tom Sr and I are going to see a professional on Monday.  I think we&#8217;re both relieved to get a trusted professional involved in our grief management.  This is not for amateurs.  <\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m worried that people won&#8217;t come to the service, or that they&#8217;ll be shocked that I&#8217;m not doing something religious, or they&#8217;ll be bored because I&#8217;m letting a lot of people speak.  It&#8217;s a lot to ask for one broken hearted little family.  I&#8217;ll post the info on Monday.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>But when the service is over then what happens?  Tom and I know we have to try and go back to work.  We have to try and focus on our jobs and other people&#8217;s problems.  We&#8217;ll have to be apart.  I don&#8217;t know if I can do it.  I just don&#8217;t know if I can be away from the man who kept me alive throughout this, the man who&#8217;s ears and toes and hands were replicated perfectly on my sweet baby.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>But we have to try, because that&#8217;s what you&#8217;re supposed to do.  <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Planning Tommy&#8217;s memorial service is overwhelming. It feels like it&#8217;s going to be the end of everything. Even now, when Tom Sr and I go outside I can&#8217;t believe how many people are just enjoying the sunny weather and laughing. The activities I want to do have sufficiently freaked out everyone I&#8217;ve been honest with. &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.poorluckyme.com\/blog\/memorial-service\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;Memorial Service&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1951","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.poorluckyme.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1951","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.poorluckyme.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.poorluckyme.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.poorluckyme.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.poorluckyme.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1951"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/www.poorluckyme.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1951\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1952,"href":"http:\/\/www.poorluckyme.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1951\/revisions\/1952"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.poorluckyme.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1951"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.poorluckyme.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1951"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.poorluckyme.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1951"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}