It’s getting close to the time…the time I’ve been dreading since the shock of Tommy’s death started to fade and reality set in. \u00a0Soon people will be impatient with our grief. \u00a0Already I try to tuck myself out of the way when I cry. \u00a0I don’t want anyone to be exasperated, even fleetingly. \u00a0For as many times as I’ve heard the well-intentioned “take your time” I know better. \u00a0So few people understand the hollow ache. \u00a0It’s not the right thing to say because it’s another miserable aspect of loss, but it’s the truth: it’s getting close to the time.<\/p>\n
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\nThis weekend Tom Sr. graduated. Watching him walk across the stage in his purple robe and his cum laude tassels was so moving. I am so proud of Tom’s hard work and accomplishments. After the ceremony we celebrated and for a few hours I felt like myself again. I was a little bit heavier hearted, but I recognized myself and it was a relief. <\/p>\n
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\nMaybe it’s not a coincidence that these two events are coinciding. I suppose that as we speed into the future, fewer and fewer people can tolerate me trying to linger in the past. I have to remember that Tommy Jr is part of my present. That’s the only way I can continue to breathe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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