Dear Poor Lucky Me,
My boyfriend and I live in a high rise apartment building across from two other high rise apartment buildings. I have purchased a pair of binoculars and spend a lot of my free time looking into people’s windows.
My question is two fold:
1. Do you think, as my boyfriend does, that this is “wrong”? As in immoral?
2. Do you think so many people do things in the nude because they know people like me are watching them?
Thanks in advance for weighing in.
Signed,
Nudist By Proxy
A word on the slippery slope: This term is most often used by extremists, douche bags, and high school teachers who didn’t like me. The implication is that doing something seemingly innocuous lowers the threshhold of what they would find acceptable and normal. Like allowing gay people to get married is a slippery slope to letting cats and dogs get married. But normal people know that’s really not how the world works. Most human beings understand the intricacies of moral theory versus the practicality of politics. Recognizing alternative marriages will lead to redefining what is normal and acceptable; it does not mean that Vera Wang will be coming out with a wedding line next summer call The Purrrfect Day or Ruffmantic Evenings.
The point is, it’s ok to spy on your high rise neighbors who have their blinds and curtains open. It’s not ok to spy on your neighbors if you live in a single family home, if you have to use a ladder, or if they have repeated asked you not to.
As to whether or not people are doing things in the nude because you’re watching, the answer is yes. That’s why I do naked push ups in my living room with all the blinds open.
Sincerely,
Dear N.B.P.,
First of all let me say I envy you. One of life’s greatest pleasures lies in spying on people in high rises with a pair of binoculars. However, finding joy in such an activity does not address the morality behind it. And I’m afraid we are about to enter slippery slope territory.
Poor Lucky Me
Dear Poor Lucky Me
I am so inspired by your advice that I would hope to become a follower of yours in a religious practice. Is there any hope.
Signed,
an admirer
There is hope, there is always hope
I don’t live in a high rise, per se, but I live on the third floor of a building with another building directly across the courtyard from me. I used to have a naked neighbor, every once in a while I’d see him come out of the bedroom naked, or whatever…I’d quickly turn my head and say to myself…naked guy! Naked Guy! It was all very “Friends”. But then one day a couple of months ago, I saw Naked Guy…Naked and Packing. Who packs in the nude? There’s rough edges and tape that can get all up in your business.
I am kinda sad to see naked guy go.
Nude danger is the best nudity of all. It’s exciting for the nudist and for the peeper. I’m sorry he left, and for your sake I hope that another naked person moves in.
When you move past your fear, you feel free. – Spencer Johnson, Who Moved My Cheese?